Living Alone

 The art of living alone. The silence. The bliss. The same music I used to hear my mom play from my bedroom when I was a little girl. The energy in the air is my own. The calmness I feel while cooking my favorite dish. The shows I watch that bring me comfort. The smell of my signature glade plug-ins. It truly is amazing. Every single girl in the world should experience living alone at least once in their life. You have your whole life to be tied down to someone so please enjoy yourself and make memories with you. I just got out of the shower and while I was in there, Sade was playing through my speaker. The stillness of my thoughts while the hot water hit my face and body truly felt like a sitcom. When I got out of the shower I sat at my vanity and did my skincare while drinking a glass of cabernet that my nana gifted me. I'm in my super soft pajamas and I'm wearing my eye patches while typing out how my night just went. I really feel like I live the life I've always wanted to live. The life I used to watch on sex and the city or girlfriends. I adored how they maneuver through their day-to-day lives even though they made mistakes. They didn't let that stop them from having a great time with their friends or themselves for that matter. The only thing that I will add is having a cleaning lady is an investment that you really need. It's a luxury that you will appreciate in the long run trust me. If you can get a chef as well invest in that too. I haven't made it to that point in my life yet where I can afford one but as soon as I earn a certain salary, there will be signs. I say all this to say please try living alone as a young woman. It's scary at first if you've never done it before but the more you live by yourself, the more you become comfortable with the peace that it brings. You get to learn who you are as an independent woman. Not that little girl who lived at mom's house and had to follow her rules. You also see how your mom was right in certain situations when it came to the home. You start to get irritated if someone comes over and makes a mess at your new apartment. You now understand that it's a respect thing and not just nagging. Don't skip this phase in your life. It's not worth missing.

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